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FEATURED PSYCHOLOGY TODAY POST:
Should You Punish Bad Behavior? The Answer May Surprise You

by Dr. Lynn Margolies

 

Should you punish bad behavior? Punishment, including self-punishment, can teach the wrong lesson and is different from consequences. Even when we (or someone else) deserve to feel guilty, guilt can backfire and make people worse.

Check out my Psychology Today post for the answers. (Click below):

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/therapy-insider/202205/should-you-punish-bad-behavior-the-answer-may-surprise-you

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"I did something bad—now what?"

Guilt can sometimes do its job as our conscience and help us realize we need to make things better.

But feeling bad for doing something wrong or having hurt someone is not an effective method of promoting proper action to do better and/or make amends. When guilt and suffering go awry, it can be consuming and take center stage as an end in and of itself, prompting emotional paralysis and self-absorption in place of growth and learning.

This easy to read post explains the psychology of teaching someone a needed lesson. | Dr. Lynn Margolies

Click on the link below:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/therapy-insider/202205/should-you-punish-bad-behavior-the-answer-may-surprise-you

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