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The Psychology of a Cheating Spouse

Dr. Lynn Margolies
by Dr. Lynn Margolies
Learn why people cheat in relationships and whether it means they don’t really love their wife (or husband). The answer may surprise you.
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Dr. Lynn Margolies

by Dr. Lynn Margolies

Dr. Lynn Margolies is a Ph.D. licensed experienced psychologist. She was trained at McLean Hospital, a Harvard teaching hospital, and was a Harvard Medical School Instructor and Fellow. Read Bio

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