Ph.D. Psychologist
Newton, MA
Articles on Women & Trauma
Amazing Doesn’t Have to Mean Superhuman & Perfectionistic
Dr. Margolies’ Letter to the editor with a response from the publication.
Barriers to True Forgiveness
Well, forgiveness is not so simple. We cannot just decide to forgive and command ourselves to make it happen through sheer force of will.
Coping With Trauma & Avoiding Misconceptions
Most of us function by maintaining an illusion of control over life with only dim awareness of possible catastrophe. A basic sense of security runs in the background of our psyche – like a computer operating system – imperceptible until it crashes. When our security is ripped away by trauma, we’re shocked and catapulted into a different reality. Suddenly the threat of danger and loss looms large, making us acutely aware that life is fragile.
How to Tell What Your Guilt Means, and Turn It Around
Learn what your guilt is really telling you and what to do with it.
Is Perfectionism on the Rise in Teenagers? The Startling News About It’s Impact on Mental Health
Perfectionism in teens fuels anxiety and increases suicide risks. Learn how family and community pressure can silently affect teen mental health.
Is Shame Good or Bad? the Effects of Shame & Guilt
Do you know the difference between shame and guilt, why shame is worse than guilt, and how shame is transmitted?
The Epidemic of Sexual Violence on Campus
This blog discusses important findings on sexual assault on campus.
The Long-Term Impact of Childhood Maltreatment
This blog discusses recent findings on the long-term effects of childhood emotional neglect and abuse. Other topics: how binge drinking in adolescents affects gene expression in adulthood, and recent finding on marijuana use in people with bipolar disorder.
The Surprising Power of Support: Research on How Love and Support Impacts Trauma Recovery and Buffers Pain
This blog discusses interesting new research on the positive biological effects of love and support.
Understanding the Effects of Trauma: Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Many people suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder fail to seek treatment because of not having correctly identified or recognized their symptoms as trauma-related, and/or not knowing their symptoms are treatable. Also, the inherent avoidance, withdrawal, memory disruption, fear, guilt, shame, and mistrust associated with PTSD, can make it difficult to come forward and seek help. The process of integration allows the trauma to become a part of normal memory rather than something to be perpetually feared and avoided, interfering with normal life, and frozen in time.
Why Appeasing or Being Silent Attracts Aggression in Bullies
Dr. Margolies’ Commentary on A New York Times Column: Trump Is Playing Rope-a-Dope With Elite Law Firms (Jeffrey Toobin, March 5)
Women’s Issues: How Therapy Can Help
Some struggles that women experience are common to many women, and can therefore be attributed to or understood in this larger context of what it means to be a woman in this culture. Framing women’s issues in this larger context helps to normalize these struggles, rather than blame women for them and unfairly contribute to their shame and self-doubt.