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Why We Hold Grudges: The Psychology of Whether to Forgive

Dr. Lynn Margolies
The holiday season ramps up pressure to forgive family members who have hurt us.
Psychology Today [View Article]
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Dr. Lynn Margolies

by Dr. Lynn Margolies

Dr. Lynn Margolies is a Ph.D. licensed experienced psychologist. She was trained at McLean Hospital, a Harvard teaching hospital, and was a Harvard Medical School Instructor and Fellow. Read Bio

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