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“Pleasing” Is Not the Proper Word
by Dr. Lynn Margolies
Describing yourself (or someone else) as a "people pleaser" confuses subordinating yourself with altruism, and encourages this unhealthy behavior. Read Dr. Margolies commentary in the New York Times to understand the psychology behind the term “people pleaser” and why the language you use matters.
by Dr. Lynn Margolies
Dr. Lynn Margolies is a Ph.D. licensed experienced psychologist. She was trained at McLean Hospital, a Harvard teaching hospital, and was a Harvard Medical School Instructor and Fellow. Read Bio
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