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Controlled By A Parent? Learn about the Psychology Behind It

by Dr. Lynn Margolies

Psychology Today

 

The Psychology of Adults Who Are Controlled by a Parent. When childhood dynamics play out in

adulthood, the spouse can get roped in.Conflict over competing loyalties is a dysfunctional family

dynamic with men who haven't psychologically separated from their mothers. To have a secure

adult relationship, a developmental transition has to occur in which the spouse replaces the

mom as the primary attachment. Childhood emotional manipulation can create psychological

vulnerability that affects adult romantic attachments.



Check out my Psychology Today post for the answers. (Click below):


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"When we interact as adults with our

parents, childhood family dynamics are readily re-experienced and re-enacted, with spouses

getting pulled into the mix and creating conflict. A particularly toxic dynamic involving competing

loyalties plays out with certain men and their moms, wreaking havoc in their marriages and

interfering with "launching" as men within a mature new attachment relationship. How the scene

unfolds and the effects depend on the degree of psychological “differentiation” achieved by the

man from his mom and whether he has created secure boundaries around his marriage and

new family, aligning himself with his spouse, not his mom. | Dr. Lynn Margolies

Click on the

link below:


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